For high-achieving women who are exhausted from holding it all together and can feel the cost rising.
You’re successful, capable, and dependable.
You are also over-functioning, over-explaining, replaying conversations at night, and quietly resenting how much you carry.
- Rest isn’t fixing it.
- Time management isn’t fixing it.
- Trying harder isn’t fixing it.
You learned how to hold everything together.
Now you’re the one unraveling underneath.
If nothing changes, this pattern doesn’t stay neutral.
It hardens.
It shows up in your marriage.
In your leadership.
In your body.
This is where you interrupt it.
Not by becoming someone new.
But by learning how to:
- Trust yourself
- Speak directly
- Stop over-carrying
- Lead your life without collapsing under pressure
If This Feels Familiar, This Isn’t “Just a Busy Season.”
You look like you have it together.
You deliver. You anticipate. You handle things before anyone has to ask.
You are the capable one.
And everyone benefits from that.
But you’re paying for it.
You’re tired in a way sleep doesn’t fix.
You replay conversations at night.
You over-explain simple texts.
You rehearse what you’ll say in meetings so you don’t say the wrong thing.
You manage other people’s emotions before your own.
You tell yourself it’s just work.
Or marriage.
Or hormones.
Or a busy season.
But the pattern is consistent.
And the longer it runs, the more it hardens.
You feel:
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Constantly tired, even when things are technically “fine”
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Stuck in overthinking and emotional regulation for everyone else
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Pulled into perfectionism and people-pleasing automatically
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Unsure what you actually want anymore
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Guilty when you rest, delegate, or say no
Your life functions.
But you’re disappearing inside it.
And if nothing changes, the resentment grows.
The nervous system stays on edge.
The marriage dynamic deepens.
The leadership strain increases.
This is the moment you stop calling this normal.
Here’s the Shift Most Women Never Get to Make
You’re not exhausted because you’re weak or doing it wrong.
You’re exhausted because your nervous system learned that staying safe meant staying capable, needed, and in control.
That survival pattern once helped you succeed.
Now it’s costing you your energy, your voice, and your relationships.
From Survival to Self-Leadership doesn’t ask you to try harder.
It teaches you how to stop over-functioning, speak directly, set boundaries without spiraling, and stay steady under pressure.
If you’re ready to stop managing yourself and start trusting yourself, this is where that shift begins.
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If you’re ready to stop managing everything and start trusting yourself, this is where that shift begins.
I’m Ready for This Shift
What Becomes Possible When You’re No Longer in Survival Mode
After this experience, women describe:
Sleeping without replaying conversations.
Speaking up in meetings without rehearsing for hours.
Saying no without spiraling afterward.
Delegating at work and at home without guilt.
Stopping the silent resentment in their marriage.
Feeling steady in their body instead of constantly bracing.
They are:
- Clear about what they want.
- Stop over-explaining.
- Trust their decisions.
You stop over-functioning.
You start leading your life.
What Makes This Program Different?
You may have tried therapy, journaling, meditation, or mindset work.
Those can help.
But they don’t always explain why you keep over-functioning, overthinking, and ending up exhausted again.
This experience starts with clarity.
Not coping.
It helps you see exactly how stress hijacks you and how to interrupt it.
It combines:
- A precise map of your survival pattern so you stop guessing
- A structured way to work with the parts of you that over-give, control, or perform
- Live practice so you can speak directly and hold boundaries in real time
- A hybrid format designed for integration, not just insight
Everything builds.
Nothing is theoretical.
The Experience:
From Survival to Self-Leadership
Module 1 | Virtual Live
(Replay Included)
Energy Leadership Index (ELI) Assessment + Debrief
📅 February 26 | 4:00–6:00 PM
You’ll discover:
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Your exact survival pattern and how stress hijacks your reactions
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Why you’re depleted even when you’re “doing everything right”
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How to interrupt over-functioning instead of pushing harder
Includes the Unlocking Growth and Releasing Catabolic Energy Workbook
For many women, this session alone brings profound relief and self-understanding.
Module 2 | In-Person
Where Are Healthy Boundaries Needed First?
đź“… Week of March 10th |Â TBD
You’ll identify:
- Where your energy is leaking right now
- What healthy boundaries actually look like in real life
- Why saying no feels unsafe or guilt-ridden
- An IFS-guided meditations to support the parts of you that over-give and self-abandon
Module 3 | Virtual Live
(Replay Included)
The Circle of Control
đź“… Week of March 24th |Â TBD
You’ll learn:
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What is and isn’t yours to carry
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Where your focus has been draining your energy
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How to take your energy back without shutting down or tightening control
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How over-managing others drains you
This is where exhaustion begins to lift, rumination decreases and steadiness begins.
Module 4 | In-Person
Core Values: Reconnecting With What Actually Matters to You
đź“… Week of April 7th | TBD
You’ll:
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Identify your top 3–5 Core Values
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Separate what you truly want from expectations and “shoulds”
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Use your values as a guide for decisions, conflict, and alignment
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Boundaries become clearer. Resentment decreases.
Core Values become the foundation of calm, confident self-leadership.
Module 5 | In-Person
Integration, Practice, and Celebration
đź“… Week of April 21st | TBD
You’ll:
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Practice setting boundariesand holding limits in real time
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Build confidence through supported experience
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Reflect on what has changed and what you’re taking forward
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Leave knowing you can use your voice, trust yourself and no longer self-abandonÂ
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You don’t just understand the shift.
You embody it.
Live sessions + replays included.
What Clients Are Saying
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"Raina's compassion, deep understanding, and use of IFS have helped me connect with my parts and shift my mindset in ways I never expected. It turned out to be a powerful journey."
– Anthia, Realter
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"I was barely functioning—grief and depression had taken over. With Raina's compassionate guidance, I not only regained my footing, but landed my dream job and transformed my relationships at home. This is the first time I’ve truly felt the impact of investing in my mental health."
– Jericca, Enterprise Account Manager
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"Raina helped me see myself as worthy, capable, and deeply loved—no conditions attached. I finally feel unstuck and like a new version of myself. I’m so grateful for this journey and for Raina’s guidance."
– Natalie, High Conflict Divorce Coach
“I didn’t realize how much of my life was being run by survival until I saw my ELI results. I stopped judging myself and started understanding myself. I feel calmer, clearer, and more aligned than I have in years.”
– Stephanie, Business Coach
“This was the first program that showed me what was actually happening inside me. I feel grounded, less resentful, and more confident saying what I need.”
– Charlotte, CFO
“I trust myself now. I don’t need constant reassurance. This didn’t just change how I handle stress. It changed how I relate to myself and the people I love.”
– Patricia, Executive
If this resonates, I’d love to support you.
I Created This Because I’ve Lived It
I created From Survival to Self-Leadership because I know what it costs to be the capable one.
The dependable one.
The strong one.
The one who holds everything together while quietly disappearing inside it.
From the outside, my life looked successful.
Inside, I was over-giving, over-managing, and exhausted in a way I couldn’t explain.
I felt broken.
But I was simply running on a survival pattern that once helped me succeed and was now draining my energy, my relationships, and my peace.
Over the last 15+ years, I’ve guided high-achieving women through this exact pattern using IFS, the Energy Leadership Index, and values-based boundary work. Not as theory. In real marriages. Real leadership roles. Real lives.
Here’s what I know:
When a competent woman understands what’s driving her over-functioning and learns how to set aligned limits, everything shifts.
- She speaks directly.
- She stops spiraling at night.
- She delegates.
- She trusts her decisions.
- She stops abandoning herself to keep the system stable.
You do not need to spend years figuring this out alone.
If you’re here, you already feel the escalation.
Something has to change.
I will guide you through it.
Not gently around the edges.
But clearly, steadily, and safely.
With leadership,
Raina
Founder, Raina Garner Coaching and Counseling
What our most successful students asked before joining From Survival to Self-Leadership
What if I don’t have the time or energy for this?
I’ve tried setting boundaries before, how is this course different?
What if I invest and don’t follow through?
How is this course different from other boundary-setting programs?
How do I know this will work for me?
This Is Your Decision Point
You don’t need another strategy.
And you don’t need to fix yourself.
You need to interrupt the pattern that’s draining your energy, straining your relationships, and keeping you in overdrive.
If you’re done over-functioning, overthinking, and quietly carrying it all, this is where you stop.
Step out of survival.
Lead your life differently.
What Women Are Saying...
