For high-achieving women who are exhausted from holding it all together and ready to feel like themselves again.
- You’re successful, capable, and dependable and you’re also tired in a way rest alone doesn’t fix.
- You’ve learned how to hold everything together, but somewhere along the way, you lost touch with yourself.
- This is your invitation to stop running on empty and start leading your life from a place of calm, clarity, and self-trust.
If This Feels Familiar, You’re in the Right Place
You may look like you have it together on the outside, but internally you feel stretched thin, overwhelmed, or disconnected.
You’re the one people rely on. The one who gets things done. The one who keeps everything moving.Â
You’ve learned how to hold everything together and you’re good at it.
But constantly being “the capable one” comes at a cost.
And yet, you feel:
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Constantly tired, even when life is “going well”
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Stuck in overthinking, second-guessing, or emotional management
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Pulled toward perfectionism and people-pleasing without meaning to be
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Unsure what you actually want or need anymore
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Guilty when you slow down, rest, or put yourself first
Your life works.
But it doesn’t feel like it’s yours.
Here’s the Shift Most Women Never Get to Make
You’re not exhausted because you’re weak, broken, or doing something wrong.
You’re exhausted because your nervous system learned long ago that staying safe meant staying capable, needed, and in control.
That survival pattern once helped you succeed.
Now it’s quietly costing you your energy, clarity, and sense of self.
From Survival to Self-Leadership doesn’t ask you to try harder.
It shows you how to lead yourself differently.
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If you’re ready to stop managing yourself and start leading yourself, you’re in the right place.
I’m Ready for This Shift
What Becomes Possible When You’re No Longer in Survival Mode
After this experience, women often describe feeling:
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Calmer in their body, not just intellectually “less stressed”
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Clear about what they want and need without guilt or second-guessing
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Confident making decisions without seeking constant reassurance
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Less reactive and more grounded in real-life moments
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Able to set limits that feel natural, steady, and self-respecting
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Relieved as self-blame dissolves and their patterns finally make sense
You stop managing yourself.
You start leading yourself.
What Makes This Experience Different
You may have tried therapy, journaling, meditation, or mindset work.
Those tools can help, but they often don’t explain why your system keeps pulling you back into over-functioning and exhaustion.
This experience brings clarity first.
It combines:
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The Energy Leadership Index (ELI) to clearly map your survival pattern
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An IFS-informed approach to work compassionately with the parts of you that learned to over-give, control, or perform for safety
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Live teaching, real-time practice, and integration
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A hybrid structure that supports lasting change, not just insight
Everything builds intentionally. Nothing is random.
The Experience:
From Survival to Self-Leadership
Module 1 | Virtual Live
(Replay Included)
Energy Leadership Index (ELI) Assessment + Debrief
📅 February 26 | 4:00–6:00 PM
You’ll discover:
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Your unique survival pattern and how it’s been shaping your energy and reactions
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Why you feel depleted even when you’re doing everything “right”
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How to begin shifting out of survival without forcing or fixing yourself
Includes the Unlocking Growth and Releasing Catabolic Energy Workbook
For many women, this session alone brings profound relief and self-understanding.
Module 2 | In-Person
Where Are Healthy Boundaries Needed First?
đź“… Week of March 10th |Â TBD
You’ll explore:
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Where your energy is leaking the most right now
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The three types of boundaries and what healthy actually looks like
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Why holding limits feels unsafe or guilt-ridden
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An IFS-guided meditation to support the parts of you that over-give and self-abandon
Module 3 | Virtual Live
(Replay Included)
The Circle of Control
đź“… Week of March 24th |Â TBD
You’ll learn:
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What is and isn’t yours to carry
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Where your focus has been draining your energy
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How to take your energy back without shutting down or tightening control
This is where exhaustion begins to lift.
Module 4 | In-Person
Core Values: Reconnecting With What Actually Matters to You
đź“… Week of April 7th | TBD
You’ll:
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Identify your top 3–5 Core Values
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Separate what you truly want from expectations and “shoulds”
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Use your values as a guide for decisions, conflict, and alignment
Core Values become the foundation of calm, confident self-leadership.
Module 5 | In-Person
Integration, Practice, and Celebration
đź“… Week of April 21st | TBD
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Practice setting and holding limits in real time
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Build confidence through supported experience
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Reflect on what has changed and what you’re taking forward
You leave knowing you can trust yourself.
Live sessions + replays included.
What Clients Are Saying
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"Raina's compassion, deep understanding, and use of IFS have helped me connect with my parts and shift my mindset in ways I never expected. It turned out to be a powerful journey."
– Anthia, Realter
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"I was barely functioning—grief and depression had taken over. With Raina's compassionate guidance, I not only regained my footing, but landed my dream job and transformed my relationships at home. This is the first time I’ve truly felt the impact of investing in my mental health."
– Jericca, Enterprise Account Manager
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"Raina helped me see myself as worthy, capable, and deeply loved—no conditions attached. I finally feel unstuck and like a new version of myself. I’m so grateful for this journey and for Raina’s guidance."
– Natalie, High Conflict Divorce Coach
“I didn’t realize how much of my life was being run by survival until I saw my ELI results. I stopped judging myself and started understanding myself. I feel calmer, clearer, and more aligned than I have in years.”
– Stephanie, Business Coach
“This was the first program that showed me what was actually happening inside me. I feel grounded, less resentful, and more confident saying what I need.”
– Charlotte, CFO
“I trust myself now. I don’t need constant reassurance. This didn’t just change how I handle stress. It changed how I relate to myself and the people I love.”
– Patricia, Executive
If this resonates, I’d love to support you.
I can’t wait for you to join From Survival to Self-Leadership
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I created this hybrid course because I know how exhausting it is to spend years being the capable one, the dependable one, the one who holds everything together while slowly losing touch with yourself.
I’ve lived the cycle of over-giving, self-pressure, and managing my emotions so I wouldn’t disappoint anyone. From the outside, my life looked successful. On the inside, I was tired, disconnected, and running on empty without fully understanding why.
Over the last 15+ years, both personally and professionally, I’ve guided women through this exact pattern using Internal Family Systems (IFS), the Energy Leadership Index (ELI), and values-based boundary work. I’m a certified IFS Practitioner, ICF-certified coach, and ELI Master Practitioner, and I’ve watched again and again what becomes possible when women finally understand what’s been driving their exhaustion.
Learning how to step out of survival mode changed everything for me. When I understood my own patterns and learned how to set limits that aligned with my values, I didn’t just feel better. I felt calmer, clearer, and more grounded in myself. I trusted my decisions. I stopped abandoning myself to keep everything else working.
You don’t have to spend years piecing this together on your own. I’ve already done that work, and I’ve designed this experience to give you clarity, support, and a steady path forward without guesswork or overwhelm.
If you’re here, something in you already knows it’s time for things to change. You don’t need to do this alone. I’ll be there to guide you every step of the way.
With warmth and care,
Raina
Founder, Raina Garner Coaching and Counseling
What our most successful students asked before joining From Survival to Self-Leadership
What if I don’t have the time or energy for this?
I’ve tried setting boundaries before, how is this course different?
What if I invest and don’t follow through?
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How do I know this will work for me?
Your Invitation
From Me to You
You don’t need another strategy.
You don’t need to fix yourself.
You need a different way of leading your life.
If you’re ready to step out of survival mode and into calm, confident self-leadership, this is your next step.
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